Another friend got engaged! Then a bunch of crazy thoughts overwhelmed me and I felt compelled to text my bff, whom I trust with all my deepest thoughts and secrets.
I’m the worst when it comes to texting because I wind up consoling myself before the person even replies and it just becomes LOL.
Call me naive, but I believe in true love, unconditional love. I don’t buy into the whole engagement ring, “diamond is forever” culture. Does my future husband love me any less if he didn’t spend at least 3 months of his salary on a ring? Does a big rock mean that divorce is out of the picture?
When I shared my convictions to a horrible former friend of mine she literally said, “You’re not going to marry rich but you deserve one that’s at least 10k. Why do you dream so small?” — that was the most shocking and hurtful thing I’ve ever heard. She didn’t even know and probably never will. But I wasn’t going to try to tell her my point of view, she wouldn’t understand. As unbelievable as it sounds, I actually just let that comment slide. It’s not that I think my future husband can’t afford it. To me, marriage is more of a spiritual ritual than it is a legally binding agreement. It’s just not how I want our love to be represented. There is nothing wrong with wanting a big rock either. They look awesome! I can’t stop staring. It’s just not my personal preference.
However, I do love jewelry, especially handmade ones 🙂 I would like to have a local artisan with an etsy shop make mine (when time comes). The idea of a person hammering away, sweating profusely in her workshop studio just makes me so happy. That image sounded awful, but you know what I mean! Someone who was totally at bliss, totally in the flow of living her art. I want that.